1. ALWAYS be grateful for EVERYTHING you have. (Cambodia)
After hearing about the tourist traps and witnessing people beg and lie to me to make a living, it seemed like anything goes. Most of the locals were making $50-100USD per month. That's less than $2/day. Yet Cambodians seemed to be the happiest people on Earth, in the simplest living conditions. Limited hot water and electricity in some places made even the worst conditions in Vancouver seem like a fairy tale.
Sinac, my Tuk-Tuk driver for a day, showed so much appreciation and joy from GETTING to work, I was extremely humbled. Could you imagine being that appreciative of where you're at, wherever you're at?
2. Work your ass off and never settle for being mediocre. (Philippines)
While I was enjoying what seemed like luxury because of the currency exchange differences, I also realized the huge opportunity in earning capacity back home. Though life seemed simpler in Manila, it's also a lot harder. With long days and long hours, brutal pollution and working conditions, Canadian employers seemed like guardian angels.
... Yeah, you're right. Maybe that's going too far. But putting my head down and going to work seems like a mighty fine idea.
3. In unknown territory, go explore. (Thailand)
The best feeling in the world wasn't getting lost in Bangkok for 10 hours and absorbing everything the city had to offer. It was unexpectedly finding my way back home after that. Not only did I see tons, but it felt amazing discovering familiarity. There's nothing quite like activating your internal GPS and independence and rushing off on an adventure.
I went through an emotional roller coaster of feeling exhausted, grumpy and judged to feeling confident, exhilarated and at home in the span of the day. I wouldn't trade those tougher emotions for anything else. In facing them, I grew immensely.
Oh, and if I didn't go explore, I probably wouldn't have had the best meal of my life. (LINK)
4. Writing is the best outlet for clarity. (China)
Want the cheapest and most uplifting cure to stress and worry? It's writing.
Because I was traveling by myself for the majority of my trip; I often had a lot of time alone with my thoughts. Personal questions about work, relationships, and life constantly barraged my conscious mind and in effort to maintain my sanity, I would write to clear the air. Sometimes I didn't have any answers, but I would just jot down questions. As the day passed, I would monitor my thoughts and find probable answers. Ranging from mildly retarded to highly genius, I would constantly be throwing poor ideas out and storing the better ones for later use. Creativity soared as I searched for better ways to describe or invent stories. Reading other books was great too, not only to increase knowledge about new topics but also to explore different forms of prose.
5. There's always a party. (Vietnam)
Singing and dancing like no one else is watching is the funnest thing I know to do. Completely disregarding judgement, I found that I could pick my mood up instantly by singing dumb ass songs or bobbing my head on a train. It's cool to be different. Trust me, everyone else on the MRT was jealous I was having more fun than they were.
Self-talk played a huge part in keeping myself company as well, as I entertained and chased laughter in self-amusement. In gloomier moods, I would begin talking out loud to myself and narrating play-by-plays. Nothing better for attitude management.
6. Asking for advice is the quickest route to success. (Singapore)
Everybody has different problems in life. The good news is that my relatives have gone through most of my problems already. It turns out that the dilemmas that I'm currently dealing with seem trivial compared to the stuff they've dealt with. Got relationship problems? Family issues? Strapped for cash? Career in suspense?
It's not that bad.
In one instance, I spent 5 hours listening to how my aunt raised my cousins. I found out what the hardest thing was for her and how she balanced raising kids as a mom with her work as a professional. Without sharing my problems, I just asked her what obstacles and challenges she overcame and then I shut up and listened.
Because she had raised such amazing kids, I knew her advice was solid. Through her perspective, I was better fit to deal with my own life. I find that more people are willing to give advice than to take it. Shoot, give it to me! I'll take it all!
Through this trip, I learnt to follow examples of success in problem areas and ask how to emulate it. It's not often you get to mentor someone younger, and when you do, most people jump at the chance to instill wisdom.
Turning this to you, what lessons have you learnt from traveling?
PS. When traveling, you're never really alone ;)
Last year, I did a list of 22 things I did for the first time.
Since I'm turning 23 next Thursday, on November 15th, here is this year's list of 23 things I've done for the first time!
1. Made my own sushi at Johanna's place (w Redline managers) - April 27th, 2012
2. Won Division B International Speech Competition - First Place - April 26th, 2012
- got disqualified at the next level (District 21) for being 5 seconds overtime, BUT first time at District 21 as a COMPETITOR though!
3. Went to a Stand-Up Comedy Club (Yuk Yuk's) for the first time - April 27th, 2012
- which, cool enough, is owned by a finance professor I had. Went with Grace and Teresa
4. Went to Steveston Quay - April 27th, 2012, with Redline managers
5. Told a girl I loved her without knowing for sure if she loved me back - April 25th, 2012
- AWW =P
6. BMO 1/2 Marathon - beat Personal Best - 2:18:50 - May 6th, 2012
7. Jetskiied in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico with Warut and Desi - nov 21, 2011
8. Off road jeeping in mexico with Blake, David, Nicole, Peter, Liz, Mahsa - nov 22, 2011
9. Cooked lamb for the first time - nov 29th , 2011
10. Partied on a rooftop club - nov 24th, 2011
11. Made Panna Cotta with Teresa - Dec 3rd, 2011
12. Made a 3D wooden model of a piano/guitar with Teresa - Dec 3rd, 2011
13. Launched QTutor.ca - Dec 13, 2011
14. Tried absinthe - Dec 26th, 2011 - with Evan Birch
15. Open Mic night - dec 19th, 2011 - with Keith and David
16. Played squash for the first time - Dec 30th, 2011 w/ John Kerr
17. Was Narrator for Mafia - January 1st, 2012 - w/ Andrew, Jenica, Beatrix, Kevin Yuen, Lucy&Helen, James and Dennis, David Ma
18. Played Bananagrams! - December 31st, 2011 - at Andrew's party
19. Had a mudfight, swam rapids, jumped off a 10 foot cliff into water, and went white water rafting in Mukwah, Alberta - July 29th, 2012, with Calgary and Edmonton orgs
20. Hit Presidents Club in sales for the first time in my career - July 28th, 2012 - w/ 649 units.
21. Became the world's youngest DTM (Distinguished Toastmaster) - Sept 23, 2012
- 5 years work finally accumulated to a milestone =D
22. Did the Super Spartan 15km Race for the first time) - Sept 22, 2012
- included running through FIRE, army-crawling through MUD and under BARBED WIRE, and failing at throwing a javelin.
23. Was featured in the Ubyssey - Oct 11th, 2012.
- w00t w00t. publicity haha.
BONUS EXTRA COOL STUFF
24. Went to Whistler for the first time! - Nov. 2-4th, 2012
25. Launched GroundWorks - October 12th, 2012, with Jeff and James Pena.
- my dream personal development company, where I get to improve myself in speaking, coaching, sales, strategizing, consulting, and networking. WOW.
- with Sage Narayan and James Tung as newly on-boarded!
26. Played Twister for the first time at WGTM Halloween Bash - October 26th, 2012.
27. Graduated from University =D - November, 2012
- no big deal haha
There are SO many more things I could have added in, but honestly, I've forgotten to over the year.
Why procrastinate when you can LIVE life and be awesome?
Action Step: Pick one thing you've always wanted to do.
Do it before the end of the year! Post below with what you did!
Written by Jay Kiew, GroundWorks strategist
Something that has hit pop culture hard recently has been the notion of bucket list. Popularized initially by the movie, the Bucket List, with Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman, and followed up with the Buried Life, people have caught on to the idea of doing the things you want to do with urgency, before you die.
I love the idea. I view the bucket list as a simple future goals list with a nice deadline: as soon as possible.
I no longer regret the past nor fear the future or death, all that matters is that I have tried my best to do the things I either said I was going to do, or wanted to.
With that, I've compiled my bucket list for all to see and also for me to be held accountable to.
Here's my bucket list, from when I started it til now:
(The things that I have done are in are green)
Speak in front of:
50 people - WLV Festival
250 people - Division B competition
300 people - Freshman Reception August 2011
400 people - District 21 Humorous Speech Competition November 2011
Division B Champion - YES - April 26th, 2012
World Champion of Public Speaking
Perform in front of 50 people - March, 2011, FSA Night/September 2011, WLV Festival
Perform in front of 750 people - March, 2007
Perform in front of 1,000 people
Compose an album - 2006
Compose a second album
Open Mic Night - December 19, 2011
Buy a black grand piano for my home
Build/buy a studio
Played squash for the first time - New Year's 2012, with John
Storm the Wall - 2009-2012
Day of the Longboat - 2011&2012
Harry Rosen Run - March 2011 - with AKPsi (44:21)Harry Rosen Run - March 2012 - with AKPsi (41:13)
Sun Run - April 2011 - with Kristy (55:06)Sun Run - April 2012 - with Blake, Debbie
Half Marathon - May 2011 - with Kajaul, Beatrix, Liz, and Charlotte (2:30:16)
Half Marathon - May 2012 - with Arash, Beatrix, David, Blake, Jackson, Kevin, Kevin, Tommy, Emily, Jin, Susan, Zhian (2:18:50)
Salsa dancing lessons - 2008-2012
Full Marathon - (tbd)
Super Spartan 15km Race - 2012, with Brandon, Jason, and Bella
Tough Mudder - 2013
Barcelona, Spain - Dec, 2012
Italy - Dec, 2012
Go on a cruise that drops by Italy/Greece or Panama - October-November 2013?
Australia Mexico (Puerto Vallarta and Cancun)
St Lucia - for honeymoon
Britain - Dec, 2012
France - Dec, 2012
New York City (Do a cartwheel on top of the empire state building) - 2013!
Whistler, BC - Nov, 2012
Victoria, BC - 2010
Snorkeling - November 2011 in PV, Mexico - with Desi and Warut
Skydiving - April 2011 - with Dyana
Jump off a cliff - small 15 feet - YOLO Summer 2012
White-water rafting - August 2012, w/ Team YOLO
Fly a plane
Make/Try Panna Cotta - December 3, 2011 - with Teresa
Publish a book
Hit a salary of $100,000/year
Learn to ride a motorcycle - in progress, with Peter
Jet-Skiing in PV, Mexico - November 2011 - with Desi and Warut
Do a 48 hour fast - Sept 2011
Speak Chinese fluently - 2014
Speak a third language conversationally
Speak a third language fluently
Action step: What are things that you want to do before you die?
Create a list!
A blog on my continuing journey through life, covering self-development and success strategies, but also personal reflection.